Thanks to my client who so kindly gave me this little sculpture of myself or any hypnotist who makes a recording and a client. It is about 4" x 4" and I keep it in my home office in Rhode Island.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Thanks to my Client for this Gift
Thanks to my client who so kindly gave me this little sculpture of myself or any hypnotist who makes a recording and a client. It is about 4" x 4" and I keep it in my home office in Rhode Island.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Hypnosis versis Psychotherapy?
I have seen many clients create breakthroughs after years of psychotherapy through hypnosis. My personal feeling is that these clients understand their issues but don't know how to go beyond understanding to health and happiness.
Hypnotism can give them the boost to take this knowledge and actually make real changes in their thinking, emotions and behavior.
But Dr. Alfred Barrios (Ph.D. UCLA) goes beyond my perspective. He suggests that hypnotherapy on its own is faster and far more effective than psychotherapy. Dr. Barrios is a Clinical Psychologist who is reported in American Health Magazine as having conducted a study of various psychological intervention techniques. Interestingly, the technique that proved to generate the greatest success in providing lasting change was hypnotherapy.
Psychotherapy: 38% recovery after 600 sessions (approx. 11 1/2 yrs @ 1 session per week.)
Behavior Therapy: 72% recovery after 22 sessions (approx. 6 months @ 1 session per week)
Hypnotherapy: 93% recovery after 6 sessions (approx. 1 1/2 months @1 session per week)
Maybe you lost weight with me or stopped smoking using hypnosis or even improved your golf game in the work we did, but if you are feeling stuck in your life, I invite you to consider hypnosis. I have seen it work for many, many clients with a wide variety of issues.
I don't consider hypnotherapy a replacement for psychotherapy but it can provide the jump start you have been missing.
Hypnotism can give them the boost to take this knowledge and actually make real changes in their thinking, emotions and behavior.
But Dr. Alfred Barrios (Ph.D. UCLA) goes beyond my perspective. He suggests that hypnotherapy on its own is faster and far more effective than psychotherapy. Dr. Barrios is a Clinical Psychologist who is reported in American Health Magazine as having conducted a study of various psychological intervention techniques. Interestingly, the technique that proved to generate the greatest success in providing lasting change was hypnotherapy.
Psychotherapy: 38% recovery after 600 sessions (approx. 11 1/2 yrs @ 1 session per week.)
Behavior Therapy: 72% recovery after 22 sessions (approx. 6 months @ 1 session per week)
Hypnotherapy: 93% recovery after 6 sessions (approx. 1 1/2 months @1 session per week)
Maybe you lost weight with me or stopped smoking using hypnosis or even improved your golf game in the work we did, but if you are feeling stuck in your life, I invite you to consider hypnosis. I have seen it work for many, many clients with a wide variety of issues.
I don't consider hypnotherapy a replacement for psychotherapy but it can provide the jump start you have been missing.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
March 2010
March came in like a lion" this year. So maybe it will "go out like a lamb." Maybe not. Weather, like life, is sometimes impossible to predict.
But with the right focus, you and I can be centered no matter what. This is one of the goals of hypnosis and meditation, to help us create a safe harbor amidst the ups and downs of daily living. Whatever the issue that presents itself, living in the present helps us handle whatever comes up.
There is a wonderful phrase in the the bible "this too shall pass". And it applies to good times as well as to the bad. Knowing that regardless of whether you are facing a lion of a challenge or a soft time in life it will change is a special wisdom. It comes from the awareness that all any of us have is this moment.
The only constant truly is change. So, with that, let the good times roll.
But with the right focus, you and I can be centered no matter what. This is one of the goals of hypnosis and meditation, to help us create a safe harbor amidst the ups and downs of daily living. Whatever the issue that presents itself, living in the present helps us handle whatever comes up.
There is a wonderful phrase in the the bible "this too shall pass". And it applies to good times as well as to the bad. Knowing that regardless of whether you are facing a lion of a challenge or a soft time in life it will change is a special wisdom. It comes from the awareness that all any of us have is this moment.
The only constant truly is change. So, with that, let the good times roll.
Cigarettes are More Disgusting Than You Thought
Aside from their disgusting smell, plus cancer, cost, heart disease, and their absurdly expensive cost, recent research shows cigarettes are cesspools of bacteria. No kidding. It seems winter colds, sore throats smokers experience are caused partially by toxic bacteria.
Cigarettes are More Disgusting Than You Thought
Aside from destroying romance with their unromantic smell (plus cancer, cost, heart disease, etc), recent research shoes cigarettes are cesspools of bacteria. No kidding. It seems winter colds, sore throats smokers experience are caused partially by toxic bacteria.
Click here for more information on University of Maryland research.
Click here for more information on University of Maryland research.
How to Honeymoon for a Lifetime
June Weddings hold a special place in the mythology of love and romance.
The bride is always radiant, stunning in her flowing white gown. Her groom is nervous yet eager and attentive. The guests sense the magic of young love that vibrates between them. Bride and groom seem literally enthralled with each other. Long gazes into their beloved's eyes. They have fallen for one other. She has got him under her spell. He has swept her off her feet. They are entranced by their love and intimacy.
You might even say they are hypnotized by each other.
They are about to enter that wonderful walking-on-air time that we call a honeymoon.
In her eyes, he can do no wrong. In his, she is perfection incarnate. The casual way she leaves her clothes on the floor charms him. She is so unlike other women who concentrate too much on neatness. His fascination with televised football games is cute. He is such a man when it comes to his games. They are in love on a pink cloud of intimacy, discovery and sharing.
But fast-forward a few years...
Unfortunately, for many married couples, this honeymoon is a short-term event. Sometimes very short indeed. Life has a way of sobering up even the most passionately "in love" people. Sooner or later he stops being charmed by her casual attitude toward neatness and begins to resent picking up after her. She gets tired of watching him watch televised sports and calls herself a football widow. She starts spending Sundays at her mothers.
This doesn't mean the love is gone. If the marriage is fundamentally sound, a deeper working partnership is developing. And these issues can be worked out. Compromise and change are possible when both parties are willing to make the marriage work. As Antonine de Saint-Expupery, a French writer, said "Love does not consist in gazing art each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction."
But, nevertheless, the honeymoon trance is broken.
Bring Back That Loving Feeling
To build a lifetime of honeymooning, let us start by assuming that a strong physical and emotional attraction exists. But the art of honeymooning requires more than love and desire. It is also necessary that the partners like each other as people, as friends for a long-term romance to thrive. To sustain this in a marriage requires what I will call "selective attention."
Romance cannot survive where there are deep-seated grudges. Anger demands expression then, not love. Once lovers (married or otherwise) begin collecting evidence against each other for the other's shortcomings, they prove to themselves that their significant other is not worthy. He or she is no longer Mr. or Ms Right, but Mr. or Ms. Whom I Must Make Do With.
To keep the honeymoon alive, it is necessary to make a conscious effort to battle this tendency. How? Start by deciding to focus on what you like about your spouse and minimize what you don't like. I am not saying to ignore important issues. But if it is not a major, unforgivable, potentially marriage-busting issue why not try letting it go?
This is selective attention, maybe a form of self-hypnosis. But it works. Harboring resentments and building a negative image of a spouse is equally a form of selective attention. However it is destructive process that does no one any good and is guaranteed to destroy romance and marriages.
Fall in Love with Someone New
When we make up our minds that we know exactly how our husband or wife is, there is no mystery to hold our attention. They are like a thriller that we have already read. Boring.
The cure is to make another conscious effort to allow your husband or wife to change, to grow, in a sense, to become new. Give them the freedom to become someone new. If you both give each other this gift you will be delighted at the freshness and excitement that it provides.
The final condition for a sustained honeymoon is mastery of the language of love. A honeymoon is about communication.
Physical intimacy is just one part of it. There are limitless ways that lovers communicate with each other. Small kindnesses. Gentle touches. Special gestures. A single rose given simply to say I love you is an eloquent example of love language so is a favorite meal cooked for no reason or a quiet hug. The vocabulary of the language of love is well known. But its grammar is the intention to really be with the loved one.
There is no doubt that it is easy for people caught up in the demands of family, kids, work and just plain living to fail to have time left over for their spouse.
But it is an equally simple matter to choose to act as if you are on a honeymoon whenever you can. You don't have to get on a plane and go somewhere. All you have to do is take the time to really be with the one you love.
How hypnosis can help
Hypnosis can help make your relationship magical again in several powerful ways. First, you can use hypnosis and creative imagery to forgive your partner for the past, to let go of blame and resentment that has been tearing your relationship down. You may have forgiven them consciously. Hypnosis can help you truly let go of the burden of blame, consciously and subconsciously.
You can also use hypnosis and creative visualization to focus your attention on the good qualities of your partner. Those that attracted you to them in the first place and the ones they have today that you may have been taking for granted.
And, yes, hypnosis can even rekindle passion.
The bride is always radiant, stunning in her flowing white gown. Her groom is nervous yet eager and attentive. The guests sense the magic of young love that vibrates between them. Bride and groom seem literally enthralled with each other. Long gazes into their beloved's eyes. They have fallen for one other. She has got him under her spell. He has swept her off her feet. They are entranced by their love and intimacy.
You might even say they are hypnotized by each other.
They are about to enter that wonderful walking-on-air time that we call a honeymoon.
In her eyes, he can do no wrong. In his, she is perfection incarnate. The casual way she leaves her clothes on the floor charms him. She is so unlike other women who concentrate too much on neatness. His fascination with televised football games is cute. He is such a man when it comes to his games. They are in love on a pink cloud of intimacy, discovery and sharing.
But fast-forward a few years...
Unfortunately, for many married couples, this honeymoon is a short-term event. Sometimes very short indeed. Life has a way of sobering up even the most passionately "in love" people. Sooner or later he stops being charmed by her casual attitude toward neatness and begins to resent picking up after her. She gets tired of watching him watch televised sports and calls herself a football widow. She starts spending Sundays at her mothers.
This doesn't mean the love is gone. If the marriage is fundamentally sound, a deeper working partnership is developing. And these issues can be worked out. Compromise and change are possible when both parties are willing to make the marriage work. As Antonine de Saint-Expupery, a French writer, said "Love does not consist in gazing art each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction."
But, nevertheless, the honeymoon trance is broken.
Bring Back That Loving Feeling
To build a lifetime of honeymooning, let us start by assuming that a strong physical and emotional attraction exists. But the art of honeymooning requires more than love and desire. It is also necessary that the partners like each other as people, as friends for a long-term romance to thrive. To sustain this in a marriage requires what I will call "selective attention."
Romance cannot survive where there are deep-seated grudges. Anger demands expression then, not love. Once lovers (married or otherwise) begin collecting evidence against each other for the other's shortcomings, they prove to themselves that their significant other is not worthy. He or she is no longer Mr. or Ms Right, but Mr. or Ms. Whom I Must Make Do With.
To keep the honeymoon alive, it is necessary to make a conscious effort to battle this tendency. How? Start by deciding to focus on what you like about your spouse and minimize what you don't like. I am not saying to ignore important issues. But if it is not a major, unforgivable, potentially marriage-busting issue why not try letting it go?
This is selective attention, maybe a form of self-hypnosis. But it works. Harboring resentments and building a negative image of a spouse is equally a form of selective attention. However it is destructive process that does no one any good and is guaranteed to destroy romance and marriages.
Fall in Love with Someone New
When we make up our minds that we know exactly how our husband or wife is, there is no mystery to hold our attention. They are like a thriller that we have already read. Boring.
The cure is to make another conscious effort to allow your husband or wife to change, to grow, in a sense, to become new. Give them the freedom to become someone new. If you both give each other this gift you will be delighted at the freshness and excitement that it provides.
The final condition for a sustained honeymoon is mastery of the language of love. A honeymoon is about communication.
Physical intimacy is just one part of it. There are limitless ways that lovers communicate with each other. Small kindnesses. Gentle touches. Special gestures. A single rose given simply to say I love you is an eloquent example of love language so is a favorite meal cooked for no reason or a quiet hug. The vocabulary of the language of love is well known. But its grammar is the intention to really be with the loved one.
There is no doubt that it is easy for people caught up in the demands of family, kids, work and just plain living to fail to have time left over for their spouse.
But it is an equally simple matter to choose to act as if you are on a honeymoon whenever you can. You don't have to get on a plane and go somewhere. All you have to do is take the time to really be with the one you love.
How hypnosis can help
Hypnosis can help make your relationship magical again in several powerful ways. First, you can use hypnosis and creative imagery to forgive your partner for the past, to let go of blame and resentment that has been tearing your relationship down. You may have forgiven them consciously. Hypnosis can help you truly let go of the burden of blame, consciously and subconsciously.
You can also use hypnosis and creative visualization to focus your attention on the good qualities of your partner. Those that attracted you to them in the first place and the ones they have today that you may have been taking for granted.
And, yes, hypnosis can even rekindle passion.
Happy Valentine's Day
So, how is your love life this Valentine's Day? Happy with a partner? Happy without a partner? Unhappy with a partner? Happy without a partner?
And how about your relationship to living life? Engaged? Inspired? Or just coping, getting by?
Wherever you are, your most important relationship may be with yourself. How are you treating you? Are you kind, considerate and loving? Or annoyed and unforgiving.
I invite you to take a moment this Valentine's Day to take a look not only at your relationship to your significant (or insignificant or not-yet-existing) other, but with life in general and yourself in particular.
I was very young when I first heard the Beatles sing "All You Need is Love." But the older I get, the more I come to believe that they were absolutely right.
All any of us really do need is love.
I wish you a loving St. Valentine's Day,
And how about your relationship to living life? Engaged? Inspired? Or just coping, getting by?
Wherever you are, your most important relationship may be with yourself. How are you treating you? Are you kind, considerate and loving? Or annoyed and unforgiving.
I invite you to take a moment this Valentine's Day to take a look not only at your relationship to your significant (or insignificant or not-yet-existing) other, but with life in general and yourself in particular.
I was very young when I first heard the Beatles sing "All You Need is Love." But the older I get, the more I come to believe that they were absolutely right.
All any of us really do need is love.
I wish you a loving St. Valentine's Day,
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